This is a super transparent post…
I don’t see a lot of women speaking on postpartum depression, it’s embarrassing, it’s ugly…but we should be.
For those of you that don’t know, I have children the ages of 3, 3, 4, 5, and 12. From 2013-2017 I was pretty much pregnant the whole 4 years with literally only a month break in between each pregnancy.
After having 4 babies within 4 years, I found myself in a dark place emotionally and mentally. Yes God was moving in our lives, but how many of you know sometimes deliverance doesn’t happen overnight? And frankly, there were huge hormonal imbalances while my body was freaking out, trying to get back to its’ “normal”.
When it came to me being a mom, I couldn’t help but feel inadequate, unprepared, and frustrated.
I loved my babies, no doubt, but physically in the beginning, sometimes I would find myself unable to move or even look in the mirror.
I remember feeling like I couldn’t breathe when all 4 babies would cry at once. There were many nights that I was balled up in the closest having anxiety attacks because I was so overwhelmed. My Husband would step up to give baths, change diapers, the whole nine – he was a real one.
I didn’t want to expose myself…
…nor my frustrations with Motherhood, but that was just one of Satan’s tactics to keep me bound. To hide. To make me feel condemnation and avoid freedom.
I don’t know about you guys, but this quarantine has really wrecked me in a good way and I HAVE to thank the Holy Spirit for being the revealer of all truths…even when He’s revealing me to me.
A lot of us moms, if we were honest with ourselves during this quarantine, have made the things of this life more important than our kids.
We let teachers, church services, YouTube, social media, etc. pour into our children more than we do.
We focus on our businesses, friends, and ministries forgetting that our first ministry starts at home.
I say all that to say, I have bonded with my children in a way I never thought possible. Healing has been taking place over the years but these past few months, I have fallen in love all over again as if they were first placed in my arms.
Three Practical Tips You Can Try Today
These are a few things that I did to help me bond with my children :
1. Sit on the Floor – I got out of bed and I sat on the floor. Lol, it sounds funny I know, but there’s something about getting down to their level and seeing the world from their point of view. We played. They got to bum rush me, as to where before I was very closed off. It opened me up to them. It gave my children constant access that they didn’t have before to me.
2. Make a schedule – Another thing I found myself doing was making a schedule. Yes. I know. But when I purposely set aside time to invest in my kids and do different things, and also have those hours where I can “refuel” and have Mommy time, it made my “getting up” manageable and I was giving myself things to look forward to with less stress.
3. D.I.Y. Projects – The last thing that I would say helped me bond with my kids was doing D.I.Y projects together. Even as toddlers, it amazes me their creativity and their little personalities. I would find myself laughing at their ideas and amazed at their independence. You definitely bond when you are creating something together and can constantly walk past it, knowing that you guys made that as a family. Honestly, it really is the little things.
To all my Mommies out there…
The frustrations, the emotions, the feeling of sometimes wanting to lock yourself in the closet and not come out, trust me, I’ve been there. But you see Sis., the beautiful thing about having a relationship with God is that the closer you draw nigh to Him, the things that don’t belong, even mental illness, HAVE NO CHOICE but to fall off‼️
Don’t quarantine & just chill. Quarantine and reconnect with your family.
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Learn More About Postpartum Mental Health
Are you also struggling (or not sure) with Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Anxiety and want to learn more? I recommend visiting www.postpartumstress.com also review the infographic below by Larkr.
If you ever have thoughts of hurting yourself or anyone else and need immediate help please call one of these hotlines:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Suicide Prevention Hotline:1-800-SUICIDE
National Postpartum Depression Hotline: 1-800-PPD-MOMS