There are countless courses, books and seminars based on Marriage and Entrepreneurship. But when it comes to marrying the two – there are not that many… at least not that I have seen or heard of.
Marriage is a lot of work on it’s own. Entrepreneurship is a lot of work on it’s own. However when you combine the two – it can make for a complicated scenario. To be a successful married entrepreneur takes a lot of intention, communication, and collaboration. This can be a very delicate dance to maneuver.
One of the leading causes of Divorce in a marriage is finances – so it’s no shock that a lot of people reach the top of their success goals, yet have failed in their personal relationships at home. This would include not just the marriage, but children too.
It’s a conversation I had a few weeks ago with my own husband. We are both Entrepreneurs trying to raise business and a family. The struggle had become too real.
Sacrificing the Family for your Business?
It’s one thing to go hard when you’re single without kids. But once you start adding other human beings in to the mix, like a Spouse and or kids, here’s such a level of RESPONSIBILITY + PRESSURE.
You could fail on your own and bounce back. Yet once other lives are involved failing also feels like you’re also failing them – and that is just a hard pill to swallow.
However, for me although my “why I do all of this”, is for the betterment of our family, my family still comes first and I need to make sure they are taken care of beyond the money I can bring into the home.
If I know their needs are met, then it’s easier for me to continue doing what I’m doing.
Yes there are many sacrifices to be made as an Entrepreneur that will pay off later down the road – however sacrificing your marriage and family shouldn’t be one of them.
Guilty of Financial Infidelity??
If you listened to the Podcast episode “How a Couple’s Staycation Saved Our Marriage“, you may recall one of the couples Donald and Abby Gadson. They are a super dear family friends of ours.
Donald is also a full time Entrepreneur working in the audio and media world. He and Abby share a YouTube Channel named Family for a Lifetime, where they openly and authentically tackle topics related to Family, Faith, and Finances.
The most recent series that they have put out is regarding Financial Infidelity. Abby discovered that Donald had secretly taken out credit card debt in order to help progress his business. His intent was genuine and for the betterment of the household. However, withholding this information caused great concern to Abby regarding trust and other underlying issues they both discuss in the videos. This news was especially upsetting to Abby since the couple worked hard for years to become debt free. They were even interviewed by His and Her Money Podcast sharing their journey of paying off over $144K in debt. You can watch that Podcast interview here: How Donald and Abby Paid Off $144,000 Of Debt In 5 Years!
The videos are set in a joint interview style, and referred to as sessions. They dialogue with each other about their views on entrepreneurship, finances, the marriage, sex and more things to come. They are very candid and open with this discussion. However, express themselves in a commendable mature style that allows for each other (and the viewers) to understand their individual perspectives and how it affects them individually and as a couple.
I wanted to share the first two videos with you here, because I felt it was important to see one of the ways entrepreneurship and the decisions of the business owner can effect the marriage and family.
They both bring up valid points, so it’s not necessarily a matter of who’s right or wrong. It is more of these are the issues, what are our perspectives, and how can we work together to make sure this doesn’t happen again – or better yet, how do we move forward in our marriage with a new set of understanding and consideration for each other.
I have included the two videos below. If you’d like to follow along with the Gadson’s and their journey through this topic feel free to follow their YouTube channel Family for a Lifetime. Let us know your thoughts, if you’ve experienced something similar or if there are other experiences you’ve had as a married entrepreneur.
Financial Infidelity Session 1
BUSINESS SUCCESS OVER SEX | SESSION 2
Special thanks to Abby and Donald for sharing their vulnerability with the world. I am hopeful that these videos will be eye opening and allow other couples to start honest conversations with each other. If necessary, do not be shy to reach out to a professional or mentor that can help you navigate this delicate journey.
I leave you with some scripture encouragement on moving forward with marriage, business and all the other responsible driven roles you lead:
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Here are some additional financial related weekly vlogs you may enjoy from Donald and Abby :